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  Hello Everyone :-)

  by new one in

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  i've only recently joined but i've been lurking for well over a year.

  i'll just start with a bit of my story so you'll have a better idea on were i'm coming from, i've read that much of most of your posts that i feel i already know you all anyway lol.. i'm 32 years old now and for most of my life i've had jw's around me at times, my mom used to study on and off with them all through my child hood alough she never took the plunge i'm not sure why because even to this day she say's she holds the same beliefs but somethings held her back so there's doubt somewhere!.

  anyway, having had the magazines around me for most my life i'd read them from time to time,but, when i reached about 17 years old i discovered nightclubs, alcohol and, well you know the rest ;-).. fast forward to my early 20's and i'd had a failed attempt at setting up my own business, my parents had split up after 25 years together and long story short i had a nervous breakdown.

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  Welcome Chris, sounds like you dodged a bullet. Glad you escaped in time with your ability to think for yourself . NMKA
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  I am now officially an Ex-JW!!!!

  by Momma-Tossed-Me in

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  i am now officially by being announced at congregation level that i am no longer one of jehovahs wihtnesses.

  that news spread like wild fire and i was dropped by all jw's on facebook, which shows the level of control the borg has in this area.

  what is interesting is there was no juducial committee.

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  Congratulations! NMKA
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  Another Family Torn Apart By The JW'S Shunning Rule !

  by Hairyhegoat in

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  this example is off another site but i think the amount of real jw's who visit jwn may take something from this example and think what the hell am i doing in a religion that treats family like this !

  here it is.. it has a few bad words in it though so if you don't like f's don't read !.

  they ruined my relationship with my family; i grow up being a jehovah witness when i was 5y/o.

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  I am sorry to hear how horrid your childhood was, your parents sound very cruel. Is there any other way you can get their DOB, public court records or something? NMKA
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  I cannot believe my father called me to ask this!

  by serenitynow! in

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  so my father, a jw bum who abandoned us when we were children to be with his pioneer whore, called me tonight and left a message.

  this is surprising because i have not seen or spoken to him for a couple of years, other than to leave a message a couple of weeks ago to tell him that i had to hospitalize my sister for being suicidal.. i found out about a week ago that one of his very good friends, a brother whose family used to go to the hall with us and used to be close to when we were children is dying in the hospital after having a couple of strokes and a heart attack.

  they've been talking about taking him off of the ventilator for a few days.

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  SN, I totally agree @#$%^them!!!! I have already made the decision that I don't run to deathbeds or go to funerals, there is no reason or person I will set foot in a KH again! Your absence will speak volumes. Why should you stress for even one second over these complete idiots? BTW I know Rosebourgh too. NMKA
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  My Story

  by TheWanderer in

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  i found this site quite a few months ago, after a curiosity search on wikipedia about jws and what's going on with the organization.

  i was unfortunately born into it, 4th-generation; my great-grandfather was a special pioneer spreading the word in the early 1900s.

  it was all i knew growing up, even though i struggled between trying to conform to make everyone happy ... and finding my own way in life.

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  Thanks for sharing. NMKA
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  Merry Christmas!

  by botchtowersociety in

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  just stopped by my desk for a sec to hope you all are having a good one.

  my house is packed and a zoo.

  maybe i am finally having a good christmas after leaving the tower.

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  Good for you! Merry Christmas! NMKA
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  Texting & Teenager-to-Parent Communication

  by skeeter1 in

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  raised as a jw, my parents were strict.

  they never _____ and i couldn't ______ was their answer for everything.

  in fact, the other jw teens i knew .

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  Skeeter, we "got out" just as our one of our sons was in 10th grade, part of the reason I wanted out was to give the kids a life. So we sat him down and said he could feel free to play sports, ask a girl to a dance and accept invitations to birthday parties an so on (we were already encouraging college). The sports was a tough thing because you can't just start playing in high school, this stuff starts when kids are 3 years old. But he did ask a girl to home coming that year ( they are still dating and are in college now). He started building on the few friends he had from school, they turned out to be a real nice crowd. We have just not had the typical teen problems with him. He is on a great career path and has a part time job in that field already. I think with teens we hear the horror stories and our son and many of friends kids have just been a dream. Did I give the speech about drinking and driving? Yes. Did we have the safe sex talk? Yes. If he makes mistakes along the way, that's ok, we will learn, we will work through it in our immediate family or with the counsel of good friends, not with public announcements, circuits of people gossiping about him and guilt trips!

  We have another son that really doesn't remember much about being a JW. He has had the luxury of more freedom, more friends, more activites. He seems ok too, getting good grades, disgusted by drugs and alcohol, lots of compliments about him from teachers and coaches. We argue a little about messy rooms, talking nice to his brother and so forth but no major headaches. We talk to them both endlessly about what they want out of life, politics/ social issues, money and relationships to try to establish some kind of value base. For instance finding out what they want for their future and guiding them through even a little 13 year old world to help the achieve it. Hope this helps a little. ( and BTW I have had to go on urban dictionary many times to decode facebook talk haha) NMKA
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  As An EXJW Does Christmas Mean Anything To You?

  by minimus in

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  i've been thinking how correct the witnesses are regarding an aspect of xmas.

  it is totally commercialized and it's big business and materialism.

  having said that, i enjoy giving presents and recieving them.

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  No, not really. I do however enjoy my little twinkle lights scattered through the house, my wreath on the doors and our little Charlie Brown Christmas tree. My new friends feel sorry for me, so they give me Christmasy decorations and candles and show me what to do with them. One of my work friends sent me a fresh Christmas centerpeice in the mail yesterday and it made my day! However, here is the deal, if you are an ex JW and you have kids, you must set the wheels in motion for some kind of new paths of joy in their lives. I am not going to be the boring bah humbug mother in law someday that noone wants to be around all winter. So we have started a few silly traditions like eating breakfast food on Christmas Eve and opening gifts. This year we are having a New Year Eve Party, maybe that will be my little nitch, but at least we are moving forward with a new life. NMKA
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  How long has it been since you communicated with your love ones.

  by jam in

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  since you left the cult how long has it been (communicated) only.

  family members.

  your mom, dad ,brother, sister, son.

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  Jamie, sounds like we hit the same parental jackpot! The thing with trying to stay in contact is that we were playing by different rules. We didn't talk about the kids being in sports, career, politics, or what we were doing with new friends over a holiday weekend. However they continued to try to tell me every little dumb gossip in the congregation, how busy they are with service and meetings and just gerneralized guilt trips. I don't want any of this in my life anymore! The final straw was my stepfather (elder) getting drunk at my son's graduation party, stayed until 1am insulting our guests and unfortunatly I cannot have a relationship with my mother or other family members without dealing with him and he is toxic. Life has been better since I cut some folks out, and sometimes you have to cut wide margins to get the rot out. So sad what this cult does to family. NMKA
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  How long has it been since you communicated with your love ones.

  by jam in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  since you left the cult how long has it been (communicated) only.

  family members.

  your mom, dad ,brother, sister, son.

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  I have had no communication with my mother/ stepfather (elder ) for 18 months. Communication ended with JW extended family at that time too. My husband speaks to his out of state JW parents via phone aprox every 2 weeks, I have no communication with them. My husband has a brother that he may text once a month. My husband has a DF'ed nephew (but trying to be reinstated) that is very needy with broken cars and various other weekly misfortunes, however when my husband laid on him that he was in a cult and should pursue an education a and a job to support himself, he stopped calling.

  I have to say the most difficult part of my exodus was trying to walk a tightrope of still trying to appease all of them and keep polite lines of communication open. It has been much easier to leave them behind and start a new life for my family. However I have to say to all of you who are unable to communicate with their children, that I cannot even begin to imagine your pain and my heart goes out to you all........ keep trying. NMKA